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3 tips for dating in college

Emily Sampl — Thu, 03 Apr 2025 05:00:00 +0000

3 tips for dating in college Emily Sampl Wed, 04/02/2025 - 23:00

If you're using dating apps, consider using these expectations to help you tailor your profile and create meaningful filters. For instance, if you’re looking for something casual, you may want to consider filtering out people who are looking for a relationship or vice versa. Using these features and being honest about what you want allows you to set clear expectations and match with people who want similar things.

If you’re not looking to date or hook up while you’re at CU, that’s okay. However, if you’re in a relationship or open to dating, here are some tips that can help you create a meaningful, healthy and happy relationship.

1) Communicate your intent

To get the most out of dating, consider what you want from the experience. Not all crushes will turn into a relationship, but it can pay off to know what you want from a romantic interest.

Here are a few expectations to talk about together:

Talk through what you might be looking for. Clarify if it’s okay to date or hook up with other people or if you’d prefer to be exclusive. Keep in mind that your wants or expectations may change over time. Having ongoing conversations with your partner as your relationship evolves is key.
Does sharing similar political views, aspirations, lifestyle or other factors matter?
Clarify expectations about who will pay for things on a date. Keep in mind that sharing expenses when dating has been shown to help partners develop healthier boundaries.

It's important to remember that effective communication requires vulnerability. A prospective interest might reject you for having wants that don’t align with their own, which can be a difficult experience. However, having someone clearly communicate their intent, even if it turns out to be rejection, can still be a better outcome than being led on or having a date end poorly.

2) Embrace authenticity and connection

We are all hardwired to seek clarity, safety and stability in our relationships. However, modern dating culture may feel like low accountability and casual interactions are expected. We may feel pressured to play it cool, be chill, minimize what we want/need or avoid committing too early. Feeling constrained by dating norms and expectations can cause increased anxiety and uncertainty.

One way to combat this is to intentionally embrace authenticity and connection. Allow your true self to shine through, whether you’re meeting people online or in person. If you prefer apps, build a profile that reflects who you really are. Don’t be afraid to showcase your personality and values through photos, questionnaires or your bio. Staying true to your authentic self can make it more likely to find meaningful connections.

Remember that you can take it slow and let things evolve. Spend as much time as you need to get to know yourself and a romantic interest.

3) Identify and communicate your boundaries

Boundaries represent the limits, rules or expectations we set for our behavior. Setting healthy boundaries can help us navigate relationships in a more positive way and avoid feelings of anger, resentment, regret or fatigue.

Here are a few examples to consider:

Are you comfortable going out with someone who may be seeing other people at the same time?
Do you want to get to know someone over text before meeting up or meet up with people right away?
What physical touch are you comfortable with on a first date (e.g., handholding, hugging, kissing, sex, etc.)? How do you see physical touch evolving as you get to know someone?
How do you feel about going out with someone who has previously dated a friend or acquaintance?
Are there specific activities you’d like to avoid on dates (e.g., drinking, expensive outings, group events, etc.)?

Clarifying our boundaries in our mind first can help us communicate them and establish a healthy relationship with ourselves and potential partners.

Here are some ways you may set and communicate boundaries on dates:

“I am feeling uncomfortable. Can we do something else that we would both enjoy?”
“I’ve never done [activity] before. I’d like to go on a date with you, and I am down to try it. But if I end up not having a good time, will you be open if our plans need to change?”
“You’re hot and I really like you, but I’m not ready to have sex with you yet. Do you still want to meet up, or does that change your interest in going on our date?”

Be honest about your expectations and trust your gut. If someone dismisses your boundaries or pushes you to do something you’re uncomfortable with, they’re probably not a good fit.

Free guide for exploring sex

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Resources

While exploring relationships may feel easy and great, it can also be rocky or challenging. Here are some resources that are available for relationship support, self-exploration and more.

Support resources

Let’s Talk

Let’s Talk is a free service where ��Ҵ�ý�ƽ�� students can meet for an informal, brief, confidential consultation with a CAPS counselor. Let’s Talk counselors can help provide insight, solutions and information about additional resources. Students commonly visit with concerns about stress, sadness, worry, relationships, academic performance, family problems and financial struggles.

Medical Services

Medical Services offers sexual and reproductive health appointments and resources for all students, including birth control, annual exams, testing for sexually transmitted infections (STIs), HIV prevention medications, free safer sex supplies and more.

Free safer sex supplies

Did you know you can get free safer sex supplies like condoms, dental dams, lube and more? Stop by the first or third floor of Wardenburg Health Center or order a free Buff Box for delivery to your residence hall.

Office of Victim Assistance (OVA)

OVA provides free, confidential trauma-focused counseling, advocacy, information and referrals for all CU community members, including undergrad and graduate students, staff and faculty. They specialize in addressing current and past life-disruptive events, including but not limited to crime, trauma, sexual assault, partner abuse, experiences of bias, harassment, discrimination, assault, other abuse and violence.

Group therapy

CAPS offers process groups that provide a supportive space for students to deepen self-understanding and explore ways of relating more comfortably to others. This group can help students learn to deal with feelings of depression and anxiety, family dynamics and other personal concerns.

Peer Wellness Coaching

Peer wellness coaches are trained students who can help their fellow Buffs navigate their time at CU. They are here to help students set and achieve their goals related to academic success, relationships, time management, personal wellness and more.

Love bombing

New relationships are exciting, especially when you meet someone you instantly click with. In many cases, feeling connected and comfortable can be a sign of a healthy relationship to come. However, a relationship that starts off feeling great can shift in ways that are not so great once the excitement and novelty wear off. Here are some signs to watch out for.

Stalking

While stalking is often directed at someone from a previous intimate relationship, it can also occur between former friends, roommates or someone the person has never met before, including matches from dating apps. Learn how to identify stalking behaviors and connect with resources.

Intimate partner abuse

Intimate partner abuse occurs in relationships that are or have been intimate. Abuse can take many forms, including verbal, emotional, physical, psychological, sexual, financial or reproductive abuse. Learn how to identify intimate partner abuse and connect with resources, or learn the difference between healthy and abusive behaviors in a relationship.

Sexual assault

Sexual violence and abuse can have lasting impacts on individuals and communities. Learn about sexual assault, consent and resources available for students.

If you’re in a relationship or open to dating, here are some tips that can help you create a meaningful, healthy and happy relationship.

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Drinking and sex: Tricky questions (and surprising answers)

Emily Sampl — Wed, 02 Apr 2025 06:00:00 +0000

Drinking and sex: Tricky questions (and surprising answers) Emily Sampl Wed, 04/02/2025 - 00:00

Sometimes drinking can lead to unintended consequences (like hooking up with a roommate or kissing your ex). Navigating sex can be complicated, especially if alcohol or other drugs are involved.

Here are answers to some of the trickier questions around drinking, sex and consent.

What is consent and how is it given?

Consent is when people mutually agree to engage in sexual activities, whether it’s kissing, touching or sex. Consent consists of words or actions that create a clear understanding of what’s desired. It’s essential for making sex pleasurable.

It’s important to establish consent before fooling around. Consent is about setting personal boundaries and respecting the boundaries of others. It’s important to check in if you’re unsure or things seem unclear.

Here are some consent essentials:

No one should be incapacitated by drugs or alcohol.
Someone can change their mind at any time during a sexual encounter and that choice must be respected.
Agreements are conditional. For instance, if you consent to sex with a condom and your partner doesn’t use one, that’s not consent.
Consenting to one sexual activity doesn’t mean you’ve consented to others. For instance, just because you are making out with someone doesn’t mean that you’ve automatically consented to have sex with them.

Is sex always considered nonconsensual when people have been drinking?

No. The use of alcohol or other drugs, in and of itself, doesn’t automatically mean a person is unable to consent. However, alcohol and drugs make it more difficult for someone to notice their own boundaries, other’s boundaries and clearly consent. When in doubt, it’s best to hold off on engaging in any sexual activity. Additionally, substance use cannot be used as a defense against allegations of sexual misconduct.

If you and your partner have been drinking at all, it’s best to check in verbally before having sex and during sex.

Ask things like:

"How much have you had to drink?"
"Are you feeling buzzed or drunk?"
"Are you feeling sober enough for sex or should we hold off?
Do you still feel like you’re in a good headspace for hooking up?
Do you want to keep going?
Do you want to stop?

Listen to your partner, pay attention to nonverbal cues and respect their boundaries. If they have difficulty responding to questions or aren't answering directly, stop until you know clearly what they want.

How much does someone need to drink before they can no longer give consent?

The impact of alcohol and other drugs varies from person to person. However, if someone is incapacitated for whatever reason, they are no longer able to give consent.

Incapacitation is a state where someone cannot make a rational, reasonable decision because they may lack the capacity to understand the “who, what, where, when and why” of a sexual interaction. Incapacitation is often associated with alcohol or other drug use, but it can also involve other factors like sleep, illness, injury or disability. Here are some signs that indicate a person may be incapacitated and is unable to give consent:

Disorientation. Someone may lose track of where they are or who they are with, seem confused, forget basic information or repeat themselves (lack of short-term memory).
Loss of motor control. Someone may have difficulty performing tasks like inserting a key into a lock, getting something out of their wallet, walking on their own or dressing and undressing themselves.
Unconsciousness. Someone may be unconscious, which includes being asleep.

If these factors are present, consent is not possible regardless of what the person is saying or doing.

Engaging in sexual activity when someone could have understood the other person to be incapacitated is considered sexual assault.

What if people are in a relationship?

In many relationships, consent doesn’t always entail an explicit conversation about sex every time it happens. However, romantic or sexual involvement with someone doesn’t give that person permission to have unwanted sex or contact with someone. The inability for there to be consent when someone is incapacitated still applies even in relationships.

What if people want to have sex while under the influence?

Intentionally choosing to be under the influence of alcohol or another drug while having sex may be something to discuss with your partner when you are both sober. Because consent is ongoing, people who while sober agreed to an intoxicated sexual experience can still change their mind once they are high or tipsy. Alcohol and other drugs can impact the way we communicate, which makes checking in with yourself and with your partner even more important.

If you or your partner become so high or drunk that either one of you are incapacitated (disoriented, loss of motor control, unconscious) or unable to make decisions, sex needs to stop. In that case, consent is not possible.

Campus resources

Don’t Ignore It is an online resource to explore your options for seeking confidential support, reporting concerns and learning skills for helping others. If something seems off, it probably is – don’t ignore it.

The Office of Victim Assistance (OVA) provides free and confidential trauma-focused counseling and advocacy support to undergraduate and graduate students, as well as staff and faculty. They can help people navigate resources, explore all their different rights and options and/or help with processing and healing from the impact of the experience.

The Office of Institutional Equity and Compliance (OIEC) implements and enforces university policies around sexual misconduct, intimate partner abuse and stalking, among other unwelcome behaviors. If you or someone you know in the CU community has been impacted, reports can be filed online. Individuals can also report something anonymously to OIEC.

Navigating sex can be complicated, especially if alcohol or other drugs are involved. Here are answers to some of the trickier questions around drinking, sex and consent.

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5 things everyone should know about sexual assault

Lynia Herrington — Wed, 26 Mar 2025 06:00:00 +0000

5 things everyone should know about sexual assault Lynia Herrington Wed, 03/26/2025 - 00:00

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month

Check out upcoming events

Sexual assault is all too common in our society and can have lasting impacts on individuals and communities.

Here are five things everyone should know about sexual assault.

1. Sexual assault can happen to anyone

People who commit sexual assault take advantage of vulnerable situations to exert power and entitlement over someone else’s body.

The reality is that most sexual assaults are carried out by people who know the person they assault, including:

Friends
Acquaintances
Classmates
Co-workers
Partners
Exes
Neighbors
Dates
Someone they met online or at a party

This often contradicts what people believe about who commits sexual assault and can make it more difficult to recognize when an assault happens.

Sexual assault can happen to anyone, though because of oppression and discrimination, women, people with disabilities and those who are bisexual or transgender are disproportionately impacted.

2. Consent is key

Consent is an ongoing agreement that people arrive at together. Consent can include words or actions that create mutual understanding and articulate acceptance to participate in a particular sexual activity.

Consent must be established before people engage in a sexual activity and must be maintained while sex is happening. Each person needs the opportunity to set personal boundaries and to understand the boundaries of others.

Here are a few essential things to know about consent:

Regardless of relationship status or sexual history, consent is required for every sexual encounter.
Body language, words and other non-verbal cues are all acceptable ways to demonstrate non-consent. Tuning into these signals is key to avoid overstepping boundaries, even when a person doesn’t feel comfortable addressing them directly or explicitly.
Consent is mutual. For instance, if someone consents to sex with a condom but their partner doesn’t use one, that is not consent. (This behavior is often referred to as “stealthing”).
People can—and often do—change their minds about what they want to or are willing to do sexually. If you or a partner signal that they want an activity to stop, that choice must be respected.
Agreeing to one sexual activity doesn’t mean the person agrees to do another activity, the same activity at a different time or the same activity with a different person. For instance, making out with someone doesn’t mean they consent to other sexual activities.
Anyone who is incapacitated by alcohol, drugs or anything else cannot give consent, regardless of what they are saying or doing. Incapacitation is a state where someone cannot make a reasonable, rational decision because they lack the capacity to understand the “who, what, where, when or why” of a sexual interaction.

Learn more about affirmative consent

3. Sexual assault can include a wide range of experiences

Sexual assault includes any unwanted sexual contact or behaviors that a person did not, or was not able to, consent to.

This can include, but is not limited to, the following:

Unwanted penetration, including vaginal, anal or oral sex. This also includes penetration by an object or another person’s body part(s).
Unwanted touching of someone’s butt, breasts or genitals.

Keep in mind that attempted touching, contact and penetration are also considered sexual assault. Additional forms of sexual harm include sexual harassment, exploitation (e.g., sharing nudes, videotaping sexual acts without consent, etc.) as well as abuse by an intimate partner.

Both sexual assault and sexual misconduct refer to legal thresholds under campus policy and criminal law. Harmful sexual experiences can still happen outside of these parameters.

If you or someone you know isn’t sure whether an experience may have been sexual assault, confidential advocate counselors on campus are available for free and confidential consultations, trauma-focused counseling and support.

Advocate counselors with the Office of Victim Assistance (OVA) are here to help students, staff and faculty understand, heal and process their experiences as well as learn about their rights and options. Remember, you don’t have to know what to make of an experience to get support. Give them a call at 303-492-8855 or schedule an appointment.

4. Sexual assault can be prevented

Buffs should look out for each other, speak up about concerning behaviors and situations and take steps to create better interactions and a safer community.

Here are some ways to help improve and practice bystander skills:

Learn to identify high-risk situations
Keep an eye on people who hit on the drunkest person at a party, encourage others to over-drink, try to get a drunk person alone or away from their friends, are persistent about pursuing someone sexually or repeatedly commit low-level boundary violations. It’s not that people don’t understand consent, it’s that some people aren’t interested in honoring it.

Intervene in concerning situations
If you see someone in a potentially harmful or high-risk situation, you can do something to intervene. Bystanders are particularly important in situations where someone is being pursued by someone else because of their level of intoxication, or if a person has been intentionally drugged in an attempt to facilitate sexual assault.

Keep track of friends
At parties, high-proof alcohol mixed with sweet punch or juice might be served to increase the likelihood that people will become intoxicated. It’s common for those who perpetrate sexual assault to encourage alcohol consumption or target those who seem incapacitated. It’s important to check in with a friend if you observe any sudden changes (e.g., difficulty standing, disorientation, etc.) that might indicate they’ve had too much to drink.

Don’t leave someone behind
Commit to not ditching someone if they have too much to drink and/or become unwilling to stick with the plan to stay together. Sticking together decreases the likelihood that someone will have to rely on lesser-known friends or strangers to get home. It’s also important to consider whether someone who is offering to walk a person home or look after an intoxicated person is trustworthy or is potentially looking for access to someone who is vulnerable.

Trust your instincts
If a situation feels weird or wrong, it probably is. If you think someone’s behavior feels uncomfortable or unsafe, follow your gut. It’s okay to make up an excuse to interject or interrupt a situation that feels ‘off.’ You can act like you don’t feel well and need them to leave with you, you need them to check on a friend or you want them to go with you to get something to eat.

5. Support is available

Resources are available for those who have experienced sexual assault, who want to support friends and survivors, or who want to learn more about sexual assault prevention. Students often reach out to friends or family members first when something bad happens. Having the skills to respond effectively without blame or judgment is vital.

Learn more skills for supporting your friends through the aftermath of a traumatic event.

Here are some of the resources available to support survivors and friends at ��Ҵ�ý�ƽ��:

Office of Victim Assistance (OVA)

Confidential resource

OVA provides free and confidential information, consultation, support, advocacy and short-term, trauma-focused counseling services for students, grad students, faculty and staff who have experienced a traumatic, disturbing or life-disruptive event, including sexual assault and harassment.

Office of Institutional Equity and Compliance (OIEC)

OIEC implements and enforces university policies around sexual assault, intimate partner abuse and stalking, and other forms of sexual misconduct. If you or someone you know at CU has been impacted, reports can be filed online. Anonymous reporting is an option as well.

Don't Ignore It

Explore your options for seeking confidential support, reporting concerns and learning skills for helping others. If something seems off, it probably is—don't ignore it.

Medical Forensic Exams

Students who have experienced sexual assault can opt to have a medical forensic exam (MFE), which is conducted by a sexual assault nurse examiner (SANE).

Mandatory reporting

All university employees who have the authority to hire, promote, discipline, evaluate, grade, formally advise or direct faculty, staff or students are considered "responsible employees" and are required to report alleged misconduct to the Office of Institutional Equity and Compliance (OIEC). This includes resident advisors, teaching assistants, professors, graduate instructors, academic advisors, coaches or other university employees with oversight authority.

Any sexual misconduct, intimate partner abuse (including dating and domestic violence), stalking, protected-class discrimination or harassment, or related retaliation disclosed to a responsible employee must be reported to OIEC. The person impacted has the choice about whether and how they want to proceed. Reporting is required to help ensure that people understand their rights and options and the resources available.

Note: Confidential campus resources are exempt from ��Ҵ�ý�ƽ�� mandatory reporting policy, including the Office of Victim Assistance (OVA), Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS), Psychological Health and Performance (PHP), Faculty and Staff Assistance Program (FSAP) and Ombuds.

Learn more about mandatory reporting

Sexual assault is all too common in our society and can have lasting impacts on individuals and communities. As we recognize Sexual Assault Awareness Month this April, here are five things everyone should know about sexual assault.

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7 tips to help you spring forward into daylight saving time

Anonymous — Fri, 28 Feb 2025 07:00:00 +0000

7 tips to help you spring forward into daylight saving time Anonymous (not verified) Fri, 02/28/2025 - 00:00

While your phone may automatically update for daylight saving time, our bodies aren’t always as quick to adapt. Here are seven tips to help you spring forward into daylight saving time on Sunday, March 9.

1. Update your clocks in advance

While most smartphones and computers update the time automatically, there are a number of clocks that you’ll need to change manually. Consider updating the clocks around your home, including those on your microwave, oven and car, before you go to bed on Saturday. In the morning, you’ll be relieved to know all of your clocks have the correct time.

2. Refresh your nighttime routine

As the semester gets busier, our sleep can suffer and the time change can bring additional sleep challenges. This is a great time to re-assess your sleep needs and habits and practice a little extra self-care around your sleep. Try to incorporate relaxing activities into a nightly routine that you can enjoy every night before bed. This can help signal to your brain that it’s time to start winding down for the day. For instance, you can take a shower or bath, sip on a cup of non-caffeinated tea, read a book (not on a screen) or listen to a meditation. These types of activities will help your mind and body settle down for a good night’s sleep.

3. Stick to a consistent sleep schedule

It can be tempting to stay up late or change your routine now that you have one less hour in the day. However, disruptions to sleep can affect our mood, energy levels, concentration and overall health. The closer you stick to your normal routine of getting between seven and nine hours of sleep each night, the faster your body will adjust to the time change.

Need more help? Check out these tips to help adjust your sleep schedule.

4. Avoid caffeine, alcohol and snacks before bed

Caffeine stimulates your nervous system and may prevent your body from relaxing naturally at night. Alcohol and food can also impact your sleep by disrupting your sleep hormones. Help your body relax and prepare for sleep by avoiding caffeine, alcohol and snacks later in the evening. If you are feeling hungry, keep your snacks small and light.

Still tired? Check out these tips for ways to stay awake without caffeine.

5. Take a cat nap if needed

If you’re feeling the effects of returning to standard time, it’s okay to take a quick cat nap during the day. Just be sure to limit your naps to 20–30 minutes. Longer naps can disrupt your normal sleep patterns and leave you feeling more tired overall. Nap pods around campus provide the perfect way to get a little extra rest without disrupting your day.

6. Avoid the snooze button

Did you know that hitting the snooze button in the mornings can actually hinder your ability to wake up?

Try to break the habit by setting an alarm that’s 10 minutes later than you normally would and place your phone or alarm clock out of reach. This will force you to get out of bed, which can help you jumpstart your day.

7. Soak up the sun

While adjusting to daylight saving time can be tough at first, the extra evening light can create more opportunities to soak up the sun.

The best part is that it can actually improve your mental health, help you feel more energized and reset your circadian rhythm. Plus you’ll benefit from the extra vitamin D. Just be sure to wear broad spectrum sunscreen with at least 30 SPF.

If sunshine late in the day makes it harder to sleep, consider using a sleep mask or investing in blackout curtains. This can help you relax and maintain your bedtime routine, so you can get adequate sleep throughout the spring and summer.

Resources

Peer Wellness Coaching

Get personalized support with a variety of concerns, including sleep, stress, goal setting, relationships and more.

*Available for students

Apothecary Pharmacy

Stop by Wardenburg to purchase over-the-counter sleep aids, herbal teas and more.

*Available for students, staff and faculty

Massage and acupuncture

Did you know massage and acupuncture can help with sleep, stress, anxiety and other concerns? Make an appointment at Medical Services for a massage, ear seeding or traditional acupuncture.

*Available for students, staff and faculty

Check out these tips to help you spring forward into daylight saving time on Sunday, March 9.

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3 things everyone should know about stalking

Emily Sampl — Thu, 16 Jan 2025 07:00:00 +0000

3 things everyone should know about stalking Emily Sampl Thu, 01/16/2025 - 00:00

January is Stalking Awareness Month

Popular culture, like shows and movies, can make it seem like persistence is the key to winning someone over. However, persistence can quickly turn into discomfort or fear when it’s unwelcome. Here are a few things everyone should know about stalking.

1. Stalking can take many forms

Stalking goes beyond following someone. It can include a variety of tactics, which may happen in person and/or online. Stalking is defined as a pattern of unwanted behavior, directed at a specific person, which causes that person to change their routine or feel afraid, threatened or in danger.

Examples of stalking behaviors include:

Continually sending unwanted communications (including emails, texts, phone calls, handwritten notes, etc.).
Catfishing or friending someone through fake accounts (including to harass or trick the person).
Watching or following someone from a distance or spying on someone with a listening device, camera, tracking device or GPS.
Waiting for someone or showing up at places where they know the person will be such as their home, workplace or outside of classrooms.
Repeatedly leaving unwanted gifts, notes or other objects at a person’s residence, work, car or other location.
Spreading rumors online and/or in person.
Posting messages or images of the person on social media or in discussion groups without permission.
Stealing or harming someone’s technological devices, schoolwork or other property, sentimental objects, people close to them or pets.
Entering someone’s home, lab, office or car and doing things to let someone know they had been there.
Hacking into someone’s social media, email or other accounts.
Contacting or using other people to get information about a person or to find them.

2. Stalking can happen to anyone

While stalking is often directed at a previous or current romantic partner, a person can also be stalked by roommates, friends, classmates, colleagues or someone they have never met or barely know, including matches on dating apps.

Here are some ways to identify healthy, unhealthy and concerning behaviors that may prompt someone to seek additional help or support:

Healthy behaviors are: When someone says “no” the other person respectfully leaves them alone and does not attempt to contact them again.
Unhealthy behaviors are: When someone says “no” the other person continues to contact them again and again.
Consider discussing with someone or documenting what is happening: When someone says “no” more than once and the other person tries to talk that person into saying “yes,” continues to contact them and/or contacts them more often.
People should consider seeking help from an advocate, the police or other professional: When they are contacted repeatedly, someone repeatedly shows up where they are, indirectly threatens them and/or does not take “no” for an answer.
Consider calling 911: When someone makes direct threats, tries to harm or directly harms the other person or damages their property or things they value (including pets).

3. Context is key

Gift giving, location tracking or sending multiple texts can be components of any relationship. It can feel really special for a roommate to bring a coffee just because they care or have friends checking an app to make sure someone got home safe. The key here is that these behaviors are wanted and help increase a sense of safety within the relationship instead of making someone feel untrusted or controlled.

From the outside, stalking may look innocuous, but to the person experiencing it, it makes them feel unsafe or threatened. The context of the behavior and the impact it has on the recipient is key.

Stalking violates CU’s campus policies and is considered a serious crime in Colorado. ��Ҵ�ý�ƽ�� provides a number of reporting and support options for those experiencing stalking.

Support resources for students, staff and faculty

If you or someone you know is experiencing stalking behaviors, it’s important to connect them with appropriate support resources and services.

General support

The Don’t Ignore It website provides options for seeking confidential support on and off campus, skills for helping others and reporting options related to sexual misconduct, stalking, intimate partner abuse, harassment and discrimination, and if someone’s behavior is concerning.

Confidential support

Students, staff and faculty directly impacted by incidents like this, as well as witnesses and friends, can get confidential support and/or counseling through the Office of Victim Assistance (OVA) by calling 303-492-8855, stopping by their drop-in hours (see website for dates and times) or filling out a confidential request form online. This form will only be reviewed by OVA staff—the university will not be notified, and no investigative action will take place. If you would like to get in contact with an OVA advocate counselor, be sure to include your contact information. OVA advocate counselors can help individuals explore their rights and options, make a safety plan, explore the impact of the experience, discuss reporting options, review living situations and more.

University reporting

If you think you or a friend may be experiencing stalking, you can report it to CU’s Office of Institutional Equity and Compliance (OIEC). OIEC can investigate concerns or address an incident through informal resolution options. Additionally, OIEC can provide safety and supportive measures, such as no contact orders, academic support remedies, housing adjustments and more. You can file a report with OIEC by calling 303-492-2127, emailing cureport@colorado.edu or filling out a report online.

Law enforcement reporting

Reporting to the police can take many forms and doesn’t have to lead to filing criminal charges. An informational or anonymous report is sometimes an option to make the police aware of the situation. Individuals may have the option to ask police to contact the person to give a verbal warning or press criminal charges. If stalking behaviors have occurred on campus, contact the ��Ҵ�ý�ƽ�� Police Department. Otherwise, contact your local police department.

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4 things everyone should know about hazing

Anonymous — Wed, 04 Sep 2024 06:00:00 +0000

4 things everyone should know about hazing Anonymous (not verified) Wed, 09/04/2024 - 00:00

College can come with a lot of social pressures. Sometimes, in our efforts to make friends or join a particular group, we can find ourselves in uncomfortable or dangerous situations.

Here are four things everyone should know about hazing.

What is hazing?

Hazing includes any activities expected of a person to join or participate in a group that can humiliate, degrade, abuse, endanger or risk emotional or physical harm. Hazing can also include any action or situation that recklessly or intentionally causes harm.

When we talk about hazing, it’s important to know that the person’s willingness to participate in a given activity or task does not make it okay.

Who is at risk?

It’s important to know that hazing can happen in any group, including:

Club sports teams
College athletics
Academic clubs
Performing arts organizations
Fraternities and sororities

Honor societies
Intramural sports teams
Political or religious organizations
Residence hall floors
Student organizations

The risk of hazing can differ by group depending on several factors, including group culture and tolerance for hazing behaviors. Taking some time to reflect on the types of groups you want to join (and why) can help you clarify for yourself what types of relationships and experiences you want to have in college. It can also help you begin to think about what activities you are or are not comfortable doing to be part of a given group.

If you’re considering joining a group, try asking yourself the following questions:

What types of groups or organizations have you thought about joining and why?
What do you know about the group? How can you find out more?
What kinds of activities are required to join?
How will it impact your academics, social life or other activities?
Is drinking or drug use a significant part of the culture and what might that mean for you?
How comfortable are you with the activities or the unknowns related to the membership process?

What does hazing look like?

Hazing encompasses a wide range of activities. These activities are often required of specific members of the group, such as new recruits. Additionally, they are often meant to take priority over other activities in a person’s life as part of the initiation or recruitment process.

Here are some examples of what hazing can look like in real life.*

Intimidation

Deception, secrecy, coercion
Assigning demerits
Demeaning names
Social isolation
Expecting certain items to always be in your possession
Ignoring members
Reports from specific members
Duties assigned only to specific members
Trying to instill fear in members
Depriving members of privileges

Harm to well-being

Verbal abuse
Threats or implied threats
Asking members to wear embarrassing attire
Skit nights with degrading or humiliating acts
Sleep deprivation
Sexual simulation or harassment
Questioning or interrogation under pressure
Requiring new members to perform personal service to active members or alumni (e.g., carrying books, running errands)
Required singing or chanting at an unrelated game or event

Violence/physical harm

Forced consumption of alcohol, drugs, food, etc.
Beating, paddling or other forms of assault
Branding
Water intoxication
Abduction/kidnapping
Sexual assault, including unwanted touching or penetration, including oral, anal, vaginal, with a body part or objects
Forced tattoos or body piercings
Enduring harsh weather without appropriate clothing or protection

*(Allan, 2015; Allan & Kerschner, 2020; Adapted from Bringing in the Bystander)

Due to the nature of these activities, many hazing behaviors go unrecognized and unreported.

It’s important to know that groups who participate in these types of hazing activities or rituals often swear members to secrecy about all aspects of the group, including initiation requirements and activities. Speaking up about hazing, even when it interferes with a group’s expectations, can help prevent it from escalating or happening to other members.

What can I do about hazing?

Hazing can be a sensitive topic, especially if someone has been subjected to degrading, humiliating or violent behaviors and activities.

Here are a few things you can do to help someone who may be experiencing hazing.

Learn to identify hazing activities

Knowing what hazing looks like can help you understand what is okay and what crosses the line. To help identify if an action may be considered hazing, ask the following questions:

Is this a required part of the membership process for a particular group?
Could this cause harm, including feelings of embarrassment, humiliation or degradation?
Are people involved being pressured or coerced to participate?
What will happen to someone who doesn’t want to participate?

Take note of changes

Hazing can cause someone to experience physical, emotional and psychological distress. Here are some signs to take note of if you think someone may be experiencing hazing:

Prioritizing group/membership activities over other areas in their life (e.g., school, relationships, etc.).
Expressing fear or hesitation about what might happen to them if they don’t participate in a specific group activity, even if it makes them uncomfortable.
Changes to their behavior or mood, including depression, anxiety or restlessness.
Missing class, work or outside social events.
Describing “traditions” that sound like hazing.
Changes to sleep habits, including fatigue.
Posting concerning or odd things on social media.
Secrecy related to group membership or “traditions.”

Learn more about the signs of hazing

Start the conversation

If you’re concerned about a friend who may be experiencing hazing, here are some ways to start the conversation:

Start with compassion. Show the individual that you care about them and are concerned. For instance, you can say something like “You’ve been spending a significant amount of your time with [group], and I'm wondering how that's going?”
Describe what you have observed (e.g., lack of sleep, changes in your friend’s mood). Sometimes individuals being hazed do not realize they are being hazed.
Listen without judgment. Show the person it’s okay to come to you for support, even if it is a hard subject to talk about.
Validate that hazing is wrong, it’s not okay and it’s not the person’s fault.
Empower the individual to take some sort of action by suggesting options or resources (e.g., talking to a professional, leaving the organization, reporting the organization, etc.) to give them choices without telling them what to do.
Stay connected. Not all individuals going through hazing are ready to report it and may need time to process. You must be there for support, as they could need you later on.

Connect with resources

Whether you or someone you know is struggling with hazing or initiation practices, there are support resources available. For more information, you can also check out StopHazing.org.

Don’t Ignore It
Explore your options for seeking confidential support, reporting concerns and learning skills for helping others. If something seems off, it probably is—don't ignore it.

Office of Victim Assistance (OVA)
OVA provides free and confidential information, consultation, support, advocacy and short-term, trauma-focused counseling services for students, grad students, faculty and staff who have experienced or witnessed a traumatic, disturbing or disruptive event. This includes hazing.

Confidential resource

Student Support and Case Management (SSCM)
SSCM provides individualized support to students. SSCM case managers connect students with campus partners, community resources and support systems, while building a trusting relationship and coaching them toward self-advocacy.

Student Conduct and Conflict Resolution (SCCR)
If you or someone you know has experienced hazing, you can file an anonymous report with SSCR.

Office of the Dean of Students (For staff, faculty and families)
The Dean of Students supports and advocates for students and connects them with resources. If you are unsure how to advise a student in need of support, call the office at 303-492-9048 for assistance and referrals.

When making fast friends or join a particular group, we may find ourselves in uncomfortable or dangerous situations. Here are four things everyone should know about hazing.

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When is it time to seek mental health support?

Anonymous — Mon, 04 Mar 2024 17:37:51 +0000

When is it time to seek mental health support? Anonymous (not verified) Mon, 03/04/2024 - 10:37

Knowing how (and when) to seek out mental health support is important, whether you’re concerned about yourself or a friend. Here are some guidelines you can use to determine if you should seek emergency, urgent or general support for mental health concerns.

When to seek general mental health support

Asking for help can be hard, especially if we’re not entirely sure we need it. While some mental health concerns may be obvious, others may be harder to accurately identify. For instance, believing that it’s normal to feel overwhelmed or stressed in school or at work may prevent some people from seeking support if it’s related to stress.

Remember that everyone struggles sometimes, and you don’t have to figure it out on your own. Here are some examples of times when it may be a good idea to seek support or connect with resources on campus.

General mental health support can be a great option if someone is:

Having difficulty managing stress, worry or anxious thoughts
Feeling down, sad or hopeless
Feeling isolated or lonely
Feeling overwhelmed by life’s demands (e.g., school, work, relationships, etc.)
Looking to develop healthier coping skills or relationships
Experiencing negative impacts from substance use
Experiencing relationship difficulties (e.g., making or keeping relationships)
Unsure how to make meaningful changes or address issues on their own

If you are struggling with any of the mental health concerns listed above, be sure to check out the following resources for support.

Resources for students

Student Support and Case Management (SSCM)

SSCM is here to help students identify issues and appropriate resources. They also work collaboratively with students to develop an action plan. This is a great option for those who would like someone to reach out to another student or friend directly for support.

Let's Talk

Let’s Talk allows students to check in for an informal and confidential consultation with a counselor.

Workshops

CAPS provides weekly workshops that can help students develop healthy coping skills related to stress, anxiety and other painful or distressing emotions. All workshops are covered by the mental health fee. Join virtually by signing up online at MyCUHealth.

AcademicLiveCare

AcademicLiveCare provides access to free online counseling, psychiatry, nutrition and medical appointments. Students can access services for free, regardless of their health insurance plan or coverage.

*This program does not provide emergency or crisis services.

Thriving Campus

If you are looking to connect with a local provider in your area, Thriving Campus can help you connect with a variety of providers based on specialization, needs and insurance.

Peer Wellness Coaching

Peer Wellness Coaching is a free service available to students to help them set and achieve wellness goals. Peer wellness coaches are familiar with a variety of topics, including stress, relationships, academics, self-care, sleep, finances and more.

Office of Victim Assistance (OVA)

OVA provides free and confidential information, consultation, support, advocacy and short-term counseling services for students, staff and faculty who have experienced or witnessed a traumatic, disturbing or life-disrupting event.

Resources for staff and faculty

Faculty and Staff Assistance Program (FSAP)

FSAP provides a variety of free mental health services for ��Ҵ�ý�ƽ�� staff and faculty, including workshops, support groups, same-day appointments, short-term counseling (including family and couples counseling) and more. Staff and faculty can take advantage of FSAP services without taking sick leave or paid time off.

Wellness Workshops

The Faculty and Staff Assistance Program (FSAP) provides free workshops to help staff and faculty find support and improve their wellness. Workshop topics include sleep, healthy eating, support groups, parenting, estate planning, homebuying, retirement planning and more.

AcademicLiveCare

AcademicLiveCare provides access to free online counseling, psychiatry, nutrition and medical appointments. Staff and faculty can access services for free, regardless of their health insurance plan or coverage.

*This program does not provide emergency or crisis services.

Thriving Campus

If you are looking to connect with a local provider in your area, Thriving Campus can help you connect with a variety of providers based on specialization, needs and insurance.

Real Help Hotline

The Real Help Hotline provides access to professional counselors who can offer assistance finding local resources as well as immediate crisis counseling. This program is free, confidential and available to all employees 24/7 at 833-533-2428.

Office of Victim Assistance (OVA)

WorkWell

WorkWell helps oversee a variety of health and wellness programs that are aimed at supporting staff and faculty and fostering a sense of belonging on campus. You can get involved by attending classes, events and more.

When to seek urgent mental health support

Mental health crises can be distressing and often require urgent, same-day support.

Mental health crises can include when an individual:

Has thoughts of suicide or are not sure how to keep themselves safe
Has thoughts of doing serious harm to someone and may act on them
Believes their life may be in danger
Hears voices or sees things that no one else can hear or see
Has recently been physically or sexually assaulted
Has recently experienced an overwhelming loss or trauma
Believes their alcohol or drug use is out of control
Believes their eating (or lack of eating) has become unmanageable

If you or someone you know needs urgent support, there are a variety of resources available on and off campus to help students, staff and faculty.

Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS)

Students who need urgent, same-day support can call CAPS 24/7 at 303-492-2277 to speak with a triage specialist. Calling ahead allows providers to evaluate your concerns, so they can address them more quickly and effectively.

*Available for students

Real Help Hotline

*Available for staff and faculty

Colorado Crisis Services

Colorado Crisis Services is the statewide behavioral health crisis response system offering residents mental health, substance use or emotional crisis help, information and referrals. They are available 24/7 by phone and text.

Call: 1-844-483-8255
Text: “TALK” to 38255

*Available for students, staff and faculty

Mental Health Partners Crisis Center

The Mental Health Partners Crisis Center is available to those in need of direct services or those seeking to help engage another person in services, whether the crisis is substance-use related, or psychiatric or both. They are available for drop-ins at their Boulder location.

Address: 3180 Airport Rd, Boulder, CO 80301

*Available for students, staff and faculty

Crisis Text Line

Crisis Text Line provides free, high-quality text-based mental health support and crisis intervention by empowering a community of trained volunteers to support people in their moments of need. They are available 24/7 by text or WhatsApp.

Text: ‘HOME’ to 741741
WhatsApp: Chat on WhatsApp

*Available for students, staff and faculty

Trevor Project (LGBTQ+)

The Trevor Project is the world’s largest suicide prevention and crisis intervention organization for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer and questioning (LGBTQ+) young people. They provide 24/7 crisis counseling via phone, text and chat.

Call: 1-866-488-7386
Text: ‘START’ to 678678
Chat: Chat online

*Available for students, staff and faculty

Real Help Hotline

Call: 833-533-2428

*Available for staff and faculty

When to seek emergency mental health support

If you or someone you know is experiencing a life-threatening emergency, call 911, ��Ҵ�ý�ƽ�� Police (303-492-6666) or go to your nearest emergency department. It’s important to know that calling the police will not get you or the person you are calling about into any kind of trouble.

Emergencies can include when an individual:

Has disappeared, is at risk of harming themselves or others, or is threatening, talking about or making specific plans to commit suicide. If you are in the U.S., you can call 988 to reach the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 24/7.
Is experiencing excessive substance use, may be at risk of overdosing or is engaging in high risk or unlawful behaviors (e.g., driving under the influence)
Requires immediate attention or intervention from mental health or healthcare professionals
Is unable to care for themselves and cannot resolve the situation with the skills or resources available to them

When calling for emergency assistance, be prepared to provide accurate information so that first responders can effectively intervene and support the person in need. Operators may ask you for details about the person you’re calling about, including their name, address, description, mental health history, substance use history, if they own any weapons and descriptions of the behaviors concerning you.

Welfare checks

Welfare checks can be instituted by any police department if you’re concerned about the health, safety or welfare of someone. Be prepared to give the exact address (residence hall and room number if on campus) and the reason for your concerns.

On campus: CUPD 303-492-6666
Off campus: Boulder Police 303-441-3333

CUPD response team

��Ҵ�ý�ƽ�� Police (CUPD) has teamed up with Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS) and the Office of Victim Assistance (OVA) to better address calls related to mental health crises and traumatic events.

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline

The 988 Lifeline is a national network of local crisis centers that provides free and confidential emotional support to people in suicidal crisis or emotional distress 24/7. You can call the Lifeline from anywhere in the United States to connect with local services. This Lifeline may also report your situation to emergency services if they believe you are in imminent danger of harming yourself or others.

Call: 988

Knowing how (and when) to seek out mental health support is important. Here are some guidelines you can use to determine if you or someone you know should seek emergency, urgent or general support for mental health concerns.

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The ultimate wellness checklist for college students

Anonymous — Thu, 18 Jan 2024 21:04:43 +0000

The ultimate wellness checklist for college students Anonymous (not verified) Thu, 01/18/2024 - 14:04

College represents an intermediary step between adolescence and full-blown adulthood. That makes it a great time to learn about your health and set yourself up for long-term success.

Here is a comprehensive checklist you can use to help you thrive in college and beyond.

Complete your health requirements

All new students and transfer students need to complete the following requirements:

Immunization records and questionnaire
Personal health inventory (WellCheck)
Health insurance

Students should try to complete these requirements as soon as possible. Failure to complete all of your health requirements by Sept. 15, 2024 can result in fees or an inability to register for spring classes.

Complete your health requirements

Transfer your prescriptions

Did you know that ��Ҵ�ý�ƽ�� has a full-service pharmacy available right here on campus? If you’re currently taking prescription medications, we recommend transferring your prescriptions to the Apothecary Pharmacy. This will allow you to fill, refill and request prescriptions for pickup at Wardenburg Health Center on central campus.

To transfer your prescriptions, you’ll need to complete the following steps:

Fill out a “New User Form” online
Provide a copy of your medical and/or prescription insurance card
Fill out a “Prescription Transfer Request Form” online

Start transferring your prescriptions

Review your health history

Knowing about your personal and family health history is important, especially as you start to make appointments and visit healthcare providers on your own. Take some time to review important health information before your first appointment. You may need to call on family members to fill in the details. Here are a few things to include in your review:

Medications (doses, frequency, why they are taken, etc.)
Allergies (e.g., medications, foods, reactions, etc.)
Significant family medical history (e.g., cancer, asthma, diabetes, etc.)
Personal medical history (e.g., diagnoses, conditions, surgical history, etc.)
Vaccination history (e.g., types, dates administered, additional doses required, etc.)

You can also use this free, printable personal health information form to review health topics. Be sure to save this form somewhere secure that you can also easily access if you need to schedule a healthcare appointment or meet with a provider.

Want to keep this information handy? Consider keeping a note on your phone or saving a copy of your health information form in a place you can easily access during appointments (e.g., in a Google Drive or as a photo on your phone).

Download a free health history form

Protect yourself against preventable diseases

College campuses represent an ideal place for diseases to spread. While CU requires students to meet certain vaccination requirements, there are additional immunizations that we strongly recommend for all students, even if they’re not required.

Here are a few important immunizations that you can receive at Medical Services to help protect yourself in college and beyond:

Meningitis: Meningitis is a serious illness that can infect the brain, spinal cord and blood. This infection can cause lifelong disability or death if untreated. CU requires all students under the age of 23 living in campus-operated housing to receive the MenACWY meningitis vaccine. However, all students living in tight quarters on and off campus are also at risk, as this disease can be spread through saliva when an infected person coughs, shares utensils, borrows someone’s lip products or is in close contact with others. Protect yourself and your roommates by getting the MenACWY and Meningitis B vaccines.
HPV: Human papillomavirus (HPV) is a serious virus that can lead to long-term health effects, including genital warts and cervical cancer. This virus is considered a sexually transmitted infection (STI) and is spread through skin-to-skin contact and intercourse, including oral, anal and vaginal sex. It is one of the most common STIs in the world, and college students are at an increased risk of contracting or spreading HPV through unprotected sex.
COVID-19: While the height of the pandemic is over, we still recommend that students receive an annual COVID-19 vaccine. Getting a booster shot can help you avoid serious illness that may cause you to miss work or classes.
Flu: Like COVID-19, the flu can spread rapidly on college campuses, especially for those living and studying in close quarters. It’s important to know that the flu virus mutates every year, which is why annual flu vaccines are critical in preventing the spread. All ��Ҵ�ý�ƽ�� students are eligible for a free flu shot from Medical Services during flu season.

Schedule a vaccination appointment

Learn about health insurance basics

Health insurance is probably one of those things you wish you would’ve learned about in high school or early in college. While insurance plans can be complex, understanding your policy is an important part of managing your health (and wallet).

If you feel overwhelmed navigating healthcare or insurance systems, you’re not alone. That’s why we’re here to help. Check out tips and tricks to help you understand the basics and make the most of your health insurance plan.

Learn how to use your health insurance

Register with Disability Services if you need accommodations

Disability Services provides reasonable housing, dining and academic accommodations for students with disabilities. Some examples of disabilities by category include, but are not limited to:

Learning disabilities and/or ADHD
Mental health conditions (e.g., anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, etc.)
Chronic health conditions (e.g., diabetes, Crohn’s, cancer, etc.)
Deafness and hearing loss
Blindness and low vision

If you have a disability and need accommodations, we recommend that you register with Disability Services as soon as possible. Disability Services can also support students with temporary medical conditions like a broken wrist or concussion. If you have any questions or if you’re unsure if you qualify for accommodations, you can reach out to dsinfo@colorado.edu for assistance.

Learn more about Disability Services

Create a safer sex plan

Sex is something we hear a lot about in college. Whether you're in a committed relationship or considering exploring sex for the first time, you’ll want to take some precautions to help keep you and your partner safe. Here are a few topics to review (preferably before you have sex).

Dating advice

You might want to date to get to know new people, start a relationship or casually hang out. It’s also okay if you’re not looking to date or hook up. If you are interested in engaging in romantic or casual relationships during your time here at CU, here are some tips for making dating fun and meaningful.

Unprotected sex

In the heat of the moment, practicing safer sex habits might not be the first thing on your mind. Here are some things to do after having unprotected sex to help address sexually transmitted infections (STIs), prevent unexpected pregnancy, cure urinary tract infections and prepare for next time.

Sexual assault prevention

Sexual assault and violence can have lasting impacts on individuals and communities. Learn more about consent, defining sexual assault, prevention tactics and support services.

Lean into support systems

There will be plenty of opportunities to reconnect with friends, meet new people and get involved on campus. However, it’s important to remember that it’s okay if things don’t fall into place right away. Making friends and building meaningful connections can take time and effort.

If you’re struggling or feel like you need additional support, lean into your support system by reaching out to your friends, family or loved ones back home. Peer Wellness Coaching is a free service that’s also available to help you navigate relationships, manage stress and learn about additional resources. The best part? Peer wellness coaches are ��Ҵ�ý�ƽ�� students, so they know what it’s like to go through the motions of college.

You can also join Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS) for free interpersonal therapy groups. These ongoing group counseling sessions focus on relationship-building, interpersonal skills, feedback and strategies to feel more connected with others.

Make time for movement

Oftentimes, when we think of movement, we automatically associate it with a sweat-inducing workout at the gym. However, movement can take many forms, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach. In fact, all types of movement are beneficial for our bodies and minds.

Building a healthy relationship with movement and participating in joyful movement are an important part of life-long health. Recreation Services offers a variety of recreational opportunities and is a great place to meet people, build community and relieve stress.

Check out our campus fitness guide

Learn about balanced nutrition

Figuring out how to plan meals, grocery shop and eat a balanced diet without hands-on guidance from our families can be challenging. Nutrition Services offers free nutrition clinics at Wardenburg or online. These clinics allow students to meet with a registered dietitian nutritionist (RDN) to discuss a variety of nutrition topics or concerns, including fueling for physical activity, chronic disease prevention, intuitive eating and more. In-depth nutrition counseling services are also available by appointment through the Physical Therapy and Integrative Care (PTIC) office at Wardenburg.

Check out nutrition services on campus

Treat yourself

Stress can cause tension, which can be draining on our bodies, especially over time. If you are feeling stressed, treating yourself to a massage or acupuncture session can help. Students can schedule appointments at the Physical Therapy and Integrative Care (PTIC) office within Wardenburg Health Center. You can even get discounted massages from massage therapy trainees.

Learn more about PTIC services

Familiarize yourself with resources

Knowing where to go for additional information and support is an important part of managing your health. Here are just a few of the resources available to students at CU.

Mental health resources

Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS)

CAPS provides mental health services for all undergraduate and graduate students, including:

Workshops
Drop-in consultations
Drop-in appointments
Therapy groups
Brief individual therapy
24/7 crisis support

AcademicLiveCare

AcademicLiveCare provides access to free online counseling, psychiatry, nutrition and medical appointments. Students can access all AcademicLiveCare services for free, regardless of their health insurance plan or coverage. Please note: This program does not provide emergency or crisis services.

WellTrack Boost

WellTrack Boost provides guided self-help resources to help individuals manage symptoms related to stress, anxiety and depression. This app includes clinically supported, CBT-based tools that you can complete at your own pace. This is a great option for those who want additional support outside of counseling or who want to take a more self-directed approach.

Behavioral Health

Medical Services has partnered with Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS) to provide mental and behavioral health services during appointments. Behavioral health staff can support students by evaluating mental health needs, providing compassionate care and referring students to individualized resources.

Office of Victim Assistance

OVA provides free and confidential information, consultation, support, advocacy and short-term, trauma-focused counseling services for undergraduate and graduate students who have experienced or witnessed a traumatic, disturbing or life-altering event.

Collegiate Recovery Community (CUCRC)

The CUCRC provides weekly support meetings, substance-free activities and other resources for those considering, pursuing or actively in recovery from drugs, alcohol, eating disorders, self-harm, other addictions and unwanted behaviors.

Physical health resources

Medical Services

Medical Services provides a variety of healthcare services for students, including:

Primary care
Sexual and reproductive health
Nutrition
Physical therapy
Massage
Acupuncture
Travel clinic
... and more

Free wellness supplies

Students can access free wellness supplies on campus at Wardenburg or through the Buff Box program (limited to residence hall students). You can pick up or order things like:

Safer sex supplies
Naloxone and fentanyl test strips
Cold care supplies
Self-care supplies
... and more

Recreation

The Rec Center offers a variety of recreational opportunities for students, including facilities, classes, programs, trips and more. They strive to create an inclusive environment where all identities and abilities are welcome to thrive, connect and recreate.

FitWell Suite

The FitWell Suite offers a variety of services to help you lead a healthy, active lifestyle, including nutrition clinics, flu shots, physical therapy, massage, injury care and more. All services are available to Rec Center members and day pass holders unless specified otherwise.

Pharmacy

Wardenburg Health Center is equipped with a full-service pharmacy that can fill prescriptions and provide over-the-counter remedies like vitamins, allergy medications, menstrual supplies, suncare, food and beverages, pain relief and much more.

AcademicLiveCare

More wellness resources

Peer Wellness Coaching

Peer wellness coaches are trained students who listen and work one-on-one with their fellow Buffs to set wellness goals, connect with resources and learn valuable skills. Peer wellness coaches can provide support for a variety of health areas, including sleep, stress, relationships, finances, academics, careers, self-image, time management and more.

Wellness events

Health and Wellness Services offers a wide variety of free events on campus. These events cover topics like self-care, nutrition, stress management, recreation, mental health, sleep and more.

Student Support and Case Management (SSCM)

The severity of a student’s distress may be unclear, or you may be concerned about a student and don’t know how to move forward. If this is the case, you can refer students to SSCM. SSCM case managers connect students with campus partners, community resources and support systems, while also building a trusting relationship and coaching them toward self-advocacy.

Nap pods

Need to take a nap on campus? Wardenburg and the Rec Center are both equipped with relaxation stations. These stations have several nap pods that can help you rest and reset during your busy days.

Naloxone

Health Promotion provides free naloxone and fentanyl test strips to students at their main office in Wardenburg or through their Buff Box program (exclusive to residence hall students).

College is a great time to learn about your health and set yourself up for long-term success. Check out this comprehensive checklist of activities to help you thrive in college and beyond.

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6 things to do after a breakup

Anonymous — Tue, 12 Dec 2023 06:00:00 +0000

6 things to do after a breakup Anonymous (not verified) Mon, 12/11/2023 - 23:00

It doesn’t matter if you’ve been with someone for a matter of weeks, months or years. The end of a relationship can still leave you feeling uneasy or uncertain about what comes next.

Here are a few tips that can help you cope with a breakup and move on in a healthy way.

1. Allow for mixed feelings

Breakups can be messy, especially when it comes to our emotions. Remember that it’s perfectly normal to feel a wide range of emotions, including sadness, resentment, jealousy, regret and relief, to name a few.

All these feelings are part of the grieving process and allowing yourself to experience your emotions without judgment can be an important part of the healing process. In fact, avoiding your feelings can sometimes cause them to become more intense, or they may sneak up on you in unexpected ways. It’s also important to keep in mind that distressing feelings will likely go away or become less concerning over time. While you may be in pain now, know that it won’t last forever (even though it may feel that way).

2. Set healthy boundaries

Setting healthy boundaries can help protect your mental and emotional health moving forward. Here are some examples of boundaries you can set after a breakup:

Details. Remember that you’re not obligated to share the details of your relationship or your breakup. If you’re not comfortable discussing the topic with friends or family members, let them know by saying something like, “I appreciate your concern, but I’d be more comfortable not talking about my relationship/breakup right now.”

Contact. Whether you’d like to stay friends with your ex or not, it’s usually helpful to take some time apart from one another following a breakup. Set boundaries with each other by agreeing to a ‘no-contact’ period. This will provide you both with the time and space you need to heal and evaluate how you want to interact moving forward. If your ex contacts you before you’re ready to talk, don’t feel obligated to respond. Similarly, respect your ex’s boundaries by not reaching out to them before the ‘no-contact’ period has ended.

Mourning. It’s okay to wonder how your ex is doing, think about your relationship and even imagine a future where it all worked out. It’s also normal to find yourself browsing their Instagram, keeping an eye on their Snapchat or reading through old texts. However, setting limits around how you ‘check in’ on an ex can help give you some peace. Schedule time to mourn by setting a timer for 10 minutes in the morning and/or at night to check their social media or texts and just feel bummed. When the time is up, stop scrolling and focus on other activities. After a while, try cutting back your timer to five minutes or two minutes. This method allows you to experience your feelings and satisfy your curiosity without consuming your entire day.

Unexpected encounters. Sometimes there’s no way to avoid an ex. Whether you have classes together, work together or have the same friend group, it’s a good idea to plan ahead for unexpected encounters. If possible, have a conversation about how to handle running into each other. For instance, you might agree to keep conversation to a minimum, wave while walking past or only talk about work or school as needed.

Just friends. If you are working on being friends with an ex, try to set physical and emotional boundaries that help draw the line between friendship and your old relationship. For instance, you may want to set boundaries around cuddling, close contact, spending the night, paying for each other’s meals or being each other’s primary source of support.

Harmful or abusive behaviors

Intimate partner abuse and dating violence can happen during the course of a relationship or after you break up. It’s important to remember that there is support available if you or someone you know is currently experiencing harmful or abusive behaviors from a significant other or an ex. The Office of Victim Assistance (OVA) offers free and confidential support for students who may be experiencing these types of behaviors.

Examples of harmful or abusive behaviors include:

Trying to control/make all decisions related to the relationship or breakup

Preventing a current/previous partner from socializing, working or hanging out with others

Threatening to or destroying personal property or threatening/harming pets

Trying to control what the other person does, how they look, who they see or who they talk to

Controlling the other person's access to employment, campus, medication, or housing

Making it difficult or dangerous to leave a relationship by controlling finances, basic needs and more

Controlling the other person's access to employment, campus, medication or housing

Manipulating a current/previous partner by using threats, derogatory terms, insults or guilt

Keeping track of where the other person is at all times

Pushing, shoving, slapping or hitting

Engaging in continuous, unwanted contact in person and/or online.

Asking for updates or details from family or friends

Spreading rumors about a current/previous partner

3. Reconnect with those around you

Oftentimes, dating relationships become our primary source for socializing and support. That’s why it’s important to spend some time after a breakup to reconnect with the people who are closest to you, including friends, family or roommates. Here are some tips to help you tap back into your support network:

Make a point to sit down for lunch or dinner with a close friend to talk about how you’re really doing and feeling. Be sure to ask them about how they’ve been doing as well.

Check in with a parent, sibling or other family member about ways they can support you.

If you haven’t been as involved at home or fulfilling your share of roommate responsibilities, talk to your roommate(s) to minimize potential frustrations or disagreements.

4. Focus on what you need most

It’s important to make sure your needs are being met, especially after a breakup. Here are a few examples of self-care activities that are worth a try:

Journal. Organize and work through your thoughts and feelings. What was good about today? What was challenging?

Take a shower. Use your private time in the shower to dance and sing, scream, cry or simply relax.

Get moving. Exercise can boost your endorphins and reduce negative impacts of stress. Take a walk, consider a class at the Rec or work on your sweet dance moves to help boost your mood.

Phone a friend. Catch up with people you haven’t seen in a while by texting, calling or asking them to grab a coffee.

Get some sleep. Breakups can be tiring. Ensure you’re getting seven to nine hours of sleep each night. If you feel tired during the day, opt for a 20-minute nap.

Stay hydrated. Try to drink water throughout the day. It's a good idea to carry a reusable water bottle with you for quick and easy refills.

Eat regular meals or snacks. Grief can sometimes impact our appetite. Try to listen to your body’s natural cues. If you find yourself not feeling as hungry, set a reminder on your phone to prompt you to eat a meal or grab a snack.

Take small steps. You don’t have to tackle everything at once. Approach new emotions or experiences one step at a time.

Monitor substance use. Sometimes, people may try to manage difficult emotions with alcohol or other substances. While sometimes effective in the short-term, this typically makes things worse in the long-run and can delay healing from a difficult experience.

5. Take some time to reflect (when you’re ready)

Reflecting on your relationship with an ex can help you identify silver linings, learn more about yourself and discover healthy ways to move forward into the future. It’s okay if you’re not quite ready to dive into the details yet, but when you are ready, here are some helpful tips for reflecting.

Who were you at the start of the relationship? Who are you now?

Relationships can be catalysts for many things in our lives. Take some time to reflect on who you were when you entered the relationship versus who you are now. Here are a few questions that can help you get started.

Did you grow as a person? If yes, how?

What did you learn about the way you handle conflicts?

How did you strengthen your communication skills?

What did you learn about the way you navigate romantic relationships?

Are there any habits you want to continue outside of the relationship?

What are your non-negotiables?

Dating provides us with an opportunity to explore our likes, dislikes and deal-breakers. Think through some of the things that are most important to you in a relationship (e.g., lifestyle choices, time together, similar goals, religious or spiritual beliefs, wanting kids, etc.).

Did you discover deal-breakers you didn’t expect?

Being aware of these factors can help you know what you’re willing to compromise on and what you’re not.

Is there anything you’d like to do differently in the future?

Let’s face it, nobody is perfect. While it’s important not to dwell on all the things we wish had done differently, understanding the role we’ve played in relationships can help us learn to approach them differently in the future. Think back on your time with your ex.

Are there things that you did or said that you’re not proud of?

Do you wish you would have handled a situation differently than you did at the time?

How do you want to show up in your future relationships?

Try to avoid beating yourself up about past mistakes. Instead, use this as an opportunity to accept that mistakes happen in every relationship. Be mindful of how you have approached different situations and how you might be able to do things differently in the future.

6. Reach out for additional support

Breakups can be tough, but you don’t need to go through it alone. If you need support, there are resources on campus that can help.

Let’s Talk

Connect with a Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS) provider for a free, informal consultation with a CAPS provider to discuss your concerns and connect with additional resources on campus. Students commonly visit with concerns about stress, sadness, worry, relationships, academic performance, family problems and financial struggles.

Office of Victim Assistance (OVA)

OVA provides free and confidential information, consultations, support, advocacy and short-term trauma counseling services for students, staff and faculty who have experienced or witnessed a traumatic, disturbing or life-disruptive event. This includes intimate partner abuse, domestic violence, stalking, sexual assault and more.

AcademicLiveCare

AcademicLiveCare (ALC) is a free telehealth platform that allows students to schedule and attend mental health and medical appointments from wherever you are.

Peer Wellness Coaching

Schedule a time to meet with a trained Buff to learn about ways to relieve stress, manage your time, find balance, practice self-care and set realistic goals.

Thriving Campus

If you are looking to connect with a local mental health provider in your area, Thriving Campus can help you connect with a variety of providers based on specialization, needs and insurance.

The end of a relationship can still leave you feeling uneasy or uncertain about what comes next. Here are some tips to help you cope and move on in a healthy way.

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6 signs of depression you shouldn’t ignore Anonymous (not verified) Wed, 09/13/2023 - 00:00

When we experience mental health struggles, it can sometimes take a toll on our relationships, academics, work performance and overall quality of life. Whether you or someone you know is struggling, help is available.

Here are six signs of depression you shouldn’t ignore (and where to find support).

Signs of depression

1. Difficulty getting out of bed

It’s perfectly normal to enjoy sleeping in or spending time in bed. However, if it has become difficult to find the motivation to get out of bed or get ready in the morning, this could be a sign of depression. Depression can make us feel fatigued, both physically and mentally, to the point where even small tasks, like waking up or showering, can feel exhausting or difficult.

2. Changes in sleep

The physical and mental exhaustion that comes with depression can also affect our sleep, which can show up in a variety of ways. This can look like sleeping throughout the day, using sleep to pass the time or choosing sleep over other daily activities.

However, you may also experience bouts of insomnia, which can make it difficult to fall or stay asleep at night. This can create a cycle where our anxious thoughts keep us up or disrupt our sleep, which can in turn lead to more anxious thoughts.

3. Changes in appetite

Depression can affect our appetite and eating habits. Some people may experience increased hunger, while others may have less of an appetite or not be hungry at all. If you notice changes in your sleep habits, like the ones listed above, you may also notice changes in the way you eat. This is because sleep helps regulate our hunger hormones, which helps our bodies avoid over- or under-eating.

4. Persistent irritability or mood swings

When someone is struggling with depression, changes in mood can switch at a moment’s notice. One second, we may be angry, the next we’re crying or shutting down. Sometimes these changes can be triggered by small or insignificant challenges, while other times they may be completely unprovoked. If you notice a pattern of irritability, outbursts or quick changes in mood for more than a few days, it may be linked to depression.

5. Difficulty experiencing joy or connection

When we’re depressed, it can take all the joy out of things we used to love and make it harder to connect with others. We may begin to lose interest in hobbies, friendships, schoolwork, extracurriculars, sex or life in general. In some cases, people may isolate themselves from close friends, family members or others who care about them, which can perpetuate feelings of hopelessness or loneliness and symptoms of depression.

6. Self-harm and self-injury

Depression and anxiety can create overwhelming emotions, and some people may turn to self-harm in search of relief. Typically, when someone engages in self-harm behaviors, they do not do it with the intention of dying by suicide, but rather a way to manage painful emotions.

Self-harm can take many forms and vary from person to person. Some examples include damaging one’s skin (cutting, burning, scratching or carving), hitting or punching oneself, piercing one’s skin with sharp objects, picking or reopening wounds and banging one’s head or body into other surfaces like a wall or door.

Because self-harm and self-injury are highly stigmatized, it can be difficult for people who self-harm to seek out support. However, there are supportive and confidential services available on campus, including counseling, recovery groups and more.

Supporting a fellow Buff

If you notice a roommate, friend, coworker or classmate experiencing any of these symptoms, here are a few things you can do to help.

Acknowledge their feelings

Oftentimes, when someone is depressed or thinking about suicide, they will disclose their feelings to friends or loved ones before seeking out resources. If someone expresses difficulties, even if they don’t refer to it as depression, acknowledge their feelings and let them know that you’re there for them.

Express concern

If someone expresses the desire to hurt themselves, shares thoughts of suicide or displays concerning behaviors, let them know you’re worried about them. You can say something like, “You haven’t seemed like you have been feeling off lately, and I’m worried about you. Is everything okay?”

Remain calm

It’s normal to feel anxious when someone discloses that they’re experiencing mental health difficulties, including depression or suicidal ideation, but it’s important to appear calm and confident. If we come off as nervous or stressed, it may make the other person feel like they need to take care of us. Remember, it’s okay to seek support for yourself while offering support to others.

Listen without offering judgment or advice

Listen to your loved ones when they tell you about their experiences, emotions and difficulties. Avoid passing judgement, relaying your own experiences or offering advice about what you think they should do. Instead, focus on being there for them in the moment. Your job isn’t to fix the situation but to help them feel heard and understood.

Ask what would be helpful

Everyone needs help in different ways. Ask them what might be most helpful, but keep in mind that people often don’t know what they need. If they have specific requests, let them know which ones you can reasonably help with. If they aren’t sure, you can offer to help them clean, go grocery shopping or check in on them. You can also make a plan to check in with them later to give them time to reflect on what might be helpful for them without being put on the spot.

Share resources

If someone you know is struggling, know that you don’t have to carry that burden for them. Instead, let them know there are resources available to help. When sharing resources, avoid forcing that person to use them. Instead, allow them to choose how and when they seek out help. If they are comfortable finding more support, you can offer to help them connect with resources on or off campus.

Campus resources

Mental health resources

Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS): Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS) provides mental health support for all ��Ҵ�ý�ƽ�� students, including same-day mental health screenings, brief individual therapy, group therapy, workshops and crisis support. CAPS is open to students.

Faculty and Staff Assistance Program (FSAP): FSAP is committed to promoting the mental and emotional well-being of CU’s staff and faculty. They offer free consultations, brief individual therapy and workshops. FSAP is open to staff and faculty.

AcademicLiveCare: AcademicLiveCare is a free telehealth platform that allows ��Ҵ�ý�ƽ�� students, staff and faculty to schedule virtual medical and mental health appointments regardless of your insurance plan. This service does not provide emergency or crisis services. Academic LiveCare is open to students, staff and faculty.

Student Support and Case Management (SSCM): The severity of someone’s distress may be unclear, or you may be concerned about a student and don’t know how to move forward. If this is the case, you can refer students to SSCM. SSCM case managers connect students with campus partners, community resources and support systems, while also building a trusting relationship and coaching them toward self-advocacy. SSCM services are open to students. Students, staff and faculty can make referrals for students.

Anthem Gold Student Health Insurance Plan (SHIP): Students enrolled in ��Ҵ�ý�ƽ�� Anthem Gold Student Health Insurance Plan (SHIP) have access to comprehensive medical, mental health and prescription coverage, including 100% coverage for in-network mental health visits. Services are open to enrolled students.

CU Health Insurance Plans: All CU employee health plans include one free preventive mental health care visit per plan year for employees and covered dependents. Plans also offer coverage for mental health specialists that are in-network. For specific plan information, please consult the Employee Services website. Services are open to staff and faculty.

Additional support

Suicide prevention resources: Health and Wellness Services has put together information to help you talk openly about suicide, support someone you’re concerned about, attend mental health training sessions and get support if you or someone you know is considering suicide. Services are open to students, staff and faculty.

Thriving Campus: Need help finding a mental health provider in the community? Thriving Campus can help you find and connect with local providers based on your needs, insurance coverage and more.

Mental Health First Aid: ��Ҵ�ý�ƽ�� offers free Mental Health First Aid training to students, staff and faculty. During this training you will learn about risk factors and warning signs, engage in experiential activities and learn about evidence-supported treatment and self-help strategies. Trainings are open to students, staff and faculty.

WellCU: ��Ҵ�ý�ƽ�� students can sign up for a free WellCU program to learn about mental health and well-being. Topics include trauma response, suicide prevention, self-care and more. Students who complete all five modules will receive a non-degree certificate. WellCU is open to students.

Supporting Student Resiliency: The Supporting Student Resiliency Professional Development Series provides CU faculty and staff with concrete skills to better support students. Sessions focus on areas critical to student retention and success. Faculty and staff can attend any individual session or attend all three sessions to receive a non-degree certificate. The series is open to staff and faculty.

Red Folder: Red Folder provides a quick reference guide to help staff, faculty and families recognize, respond to and refer students who are experiencing distress. Red Folder is open to staff and faculty.

Watching someone struggle with their mental health can be difficult. Here are some common symptoms of depression and ways to help a loved one who may be struggling.

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